Love and commitment are not up for public opinion

17 May



Big happenings here in Massachusetts, now that the crumbs of National Chocolate Chip Cookie Day have settled down.


Today, May 17, marks the 10-year anniversary that Massachusetts became the first state to legalize same-sex marriages. Committed partners began filling out marriage license applications at 12:01 a.m., this day 10 years ago, so their relationship could be legal in the eyes of the law. Today’s papers are filled with the happy stories of many of these couples celebrating 10 years of married bliss.


My Pub and I think that is fantastic, but it does raise an interesting issue: Why did these people need voters’ approval? When did love go out for a vote? For that matter, why should any emotion – greed, joy, sadness – be up for government approval? A two-thirds majority? The consent of some guy who lives down the street?


Of course, it was not the emotion that was voted on, it was the legality of a lot of paperwork. Legalizing marriage enables these individuals to easily bequeath things to the one they love most in the world, to include them on their health and life insurance policies,  to hold their hands at a hospital bedside when visiting hours are over.


There is lots more to this, the least of which is that some states still prohibit same-sex couples from legally marrying. We find that mindboggling.


Now, I’m all for votes, but do we really need to spend time, energy, paperwork and money voting on the rights of some individuals to marry, simply because they are the same sex? To us, these government resources would be better spent on improving public education, healthcare and faulty bridges.


The right of you and the one you love to marry should be as basic as the right to breathe air, the right to eat peanut butter straight from the jar and the right to skip a workout if you really aren’t feeling up to it. (of course, you shouldn’t make skipping the workout thing a habit!)


No one has the right to tell you who you should spend your life with. It’s shameful that some people think they do.


Happy anniversary to the many couples celebrating today!


xo, LMA

p.s. according to our friends at Hallmark, 10-year anniversaries are celebrated with tin/aluminum (traditional) or diamonds (modern.) We say, go for the diamonds!


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7 Responses to “Love and commitment are not up for public opinion”

  1. Carol Jamison May 17, 2014 at 1:49 pm #

    Agree with you completely, Ms. Alcatt! Thank you for another wonderful post!

  2. First Night Design May 17, 2014 at 2:41 pm #

    Well said.

  3. Bruce Thiesen May 18, 2014 at 11:52 am #

    It’s an odd matter indeed. The neighbors and millions of people who don’t know you will weigh in to tell you who you can marry, the state will cite the code and issue a number and the church will look for its own air cover. Go three-for-three and two people can move on.

    As always, just an excellent and fun post here on SK.

  4. soonie2 May 18, 2014 at 3:39 pm #

    And I couldn’t agree more!!

  5. LB May 19, 2014 at 8:51 pm #

    Absolutely right! Excellent post!
    I typed up a whole long rant about this and other social issues … but I just decided to stick with “absolutely right”.
    10 years!! Go Massachusetts!


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